Salaam/Peace,

As I watched and listened to countless women, especially black women speak on how hard it is to find a "man of value" or a "high value man", I realized that there are a number of things that are causing issues in the pursuit of black women having the fulfilled relationships they want, with the men or type of men they want. I would hallucinate that many of these issues stem from what we were taught and how we were brought up.

I discovered an on-going trend of teaching amongst blac...

Salaam/Peace,

The introduction into marriage & polygyny can be faced with it’s challenges. Couples may experience many ebbs & flows, which is completely normal in any relationship of substance. Loving your spouse on the bad days is where you can discover or rediscover what brought you to enjoy one another in the first place. In this video I discuss how the landscape of love may change while practicing polygyny; however this particular lifestyle change does not spell defeat in the long run.

Che...

Salaam/Peace!

There has been heavy talk around the relationship cooler about masculine and feminine energy and what attracts "men of value". Time and time again, the word, "submissive" has been thrown out there and when that word is used by men (or by Muslims) people (usually women) react by stating that submissive women are "out of touch", "have low self esteem", "are brain-washed" or a new one I heard was, "pretty little slaves". I thought this was an interesting topic to discuss so I uploade...

Salaams/Peace,

Let's tackle the burning question of how co-wives can cooperate with one another in polygyny. Often times societal norms that co-wives must be natural born enemies and that's just not the case. Co-wives can definitely live in peace if they give themselves permission to do so by seeing each others different perspectives and allowing one another to express their experiences. In this video, I share how my co-wife and I keep peace and cooperate with each other.

Check out the video H...

Salaam/Peace,

Many times you have all asked about how Coach Nazir and I feel about getting married at a young age and do we feel like we "raised each other" throughout our marriage. In this video, Coach Nazir and I discuss our story of how we married young and what were some of the challenges we endured and the triumphs we celebrated as a couple. 

Check out the video HERE!

If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us at [email protected].

Salaams/Peace,

Many of you were wondering and have asked me about your adult children & polygyny. Questions such as; “How do your adult children feel about polygyny, Do your grown children accept your co-wife, also What is their relationship like with your co-wife?” In this video, I discuss polygyny and having daughters that are adults now and how she has navigated their feelings.

Check out the video HERE!

Remember investing in you is always priceless.

Peace,

—Coach Fatimah🌺

Salaam/Peace,

We've received a number of questions as well as comments on my co-wife and my relationship with one another. Questions such as, "Are you really this friendly to each other? How do you get along so well? Has it always been this way?" or one of the most common, "Can co-wives really be drama-free?"

The simple answer to the last question is, yes. However, I would be misleading you if I didn't tell you that it takes qualities and skills one must be willing to possess to achieve it. My...

Salaams / Peace!

We all are aware that polygyny is another form of marriage and we also know that it comes with many challenges. Marriage isn’t easy even if the marriage is a monogamous one on the part of the husband. However, one of the reasons why some co-wives find polygyny particularly difficult is because wives can develop the feeling that they are living in the "shadow" of their co-wife.

In this video I discuss that very subject and offer some advice on how to not remain in the shadows of ...

 Salaam/Peace, 

When I speak with brothers, more often than not, I get asked, "if there was one things you'd suggest, just one, that would help me in my marriage(s), what would it be?" I usually answer with the same answer and reply, "increase your leadership skills." View the video here and let me know your thoughts.

Now it's not the same increase your iman (faith), learn patience, or focus on your wife's needs advice that they hear often. Though all 3 of those are important, especially focus...

Salaam/Peace,

I have made a number of mistakes in my life and I've also made mistakes in polygyny. Being human and not having a guide book or much information out there on polygyny to help navigate me definitely assisted in the array of oopsies I've made in my marriage and my relationships.

However, knowing what I know now, I've been able to improve my relationships, correct my mistakes and coach and assist others along the way. I decided to create a video series about the Polygyny Mistakes I m...