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Has there ever been a time, shoot, maybe multiple times, where you wished that your spouse was just a little different in some way? Have you ever thought to yourself, "maybe I can get him to change", or "if I did this, then he would be this way"? Has that ever worked for you? I know many of us may have these thoughts of wanting to change our spouse or spouses in some way or another and that is usually due to our selfish nature. Yes, I said it. In this video, I focus on the idea o...

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Whether you're monogamously married, married in polygyny, or single; life presents itself with many challenges. And with these challenges come and we always learn from them.

And this is especially true in polygyny; with this form of marriage, some may say there are even double the challenges and triumphs. 

In this video, Coaches Nyla, Nazir & Fatimah each share ONE thing they've learned in polygyny and the impact it has had in their lives.

Nyla, Nazir, & Fatimah

PS: If you w...

Salaam/Peace,

A more than common occurrence in polygyny is choosing sides. Trying to pick whether the initial wife is the "victim" for her husband marrying another woman or if the incoming wife is a "homewrecker" for "intruding" in on a marriage, although her husband is practicing something that is permissible in Islam.

In this video, co-wives & Coaches Nyla and Fatimah have a discussion on pain in polygyny and the impact it has had in their lives.

You can watch the video HERE!

If you have ...

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We have received many questions like: (jump to the video here)

• How do you find women interested in polygyny?
• What about the children?
• How do I deal with the stigma of being a "2nd" or subsequent wife?
• Do you live in the same house?
• How do I deal with jealousy?
• How can I help my wife understand why I want multiple wives?
• How much money do you need?
• What about feelings of guilt, betrayal, trauma?

We recorded a short video for you to check out HERE and we ask that you le...

Some people say that one of the hardest and most rewarding jobs in one's life is that of a parent. What about being a "bonus parent"? For those who are not familiar, a bonus parent is another name for step parent. Being one who was a bonus/step daughter twice around as well as being a bonus mom twice around, I have a little experience from both sides of the fence.

My first step/bonus dad, whom I lovingly refer to as "Pop" or "Pop-Pop" entered my life when I was 2 years old. Even though he and m...

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One of the major challenges between wives in polygyny is the compare and compete game. There seems to be some unwritten code that states that because you are married to the same man you must be competitors. Competing and comparing can tend to bring out more insecurity than growth. Have you heard the saying, "Comparison is the thief of joy"? While that can be true, we can also use comparisons in an empowering way if we choose to.

I created a video that explains that in a lot more ...

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Healing from our past traumas is something we all must do in order to move forward to gain happiness and future success. Oftentimes we don't realize that if we wait to heal, we are actually prolonging the process; causing more pent up anger and possibly even rage. One of the most important things is especially the harmony that may come from our healing; inner peace is always priceless.

In this video, Coach Fatimah discovered that waiting to heal placed much "weight" on her shoul...

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We know that it is not always peaches and cream or sunshine and rainbows when it comes to building our best relationships. It take time, patience understanding among other things. What about when the going gets rough? What about the times where you just can't seem to agree or those instances that may set off certain triggers that can cause things to blow up in ways that can be hard to come back from?

We don't have to fight every battle that comes our way in our relationships. The...

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Years ago I learned a philosophy that has served my family and I well. That philosophy is summed up in 3 words: 'Faith, Family, Finances'. This has served me by reminding me of priorities and things of which I must be aware. [Click here to watch Video]

I don't come from a privileged background where my family environment was mainly encouraging and nurturing, it was quite the opposite. Experiencing this as a boy caused me to form some rather strong ideas of what I'd like my famil...

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NEW BLOG ALERT!! It's time for a STORY time blog! In our new blog, Coach Fatimah discusses a recent Eid celebration in her community which was full of lots of laughs, funs and great memories! However, there was just one catch.

Oftentimes, when there are celebrations such as Eid or Jummah, many friends & co-wives have the opportunity to meet one another for the FIRST time. We all know that those moments can become particularly tense because our friends may feel hurt, defensive o...