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We all are aware that polygyny is another form of marriage and we also know that it comes with many challenges. Marriage isn’t easy even if the marriage is a monogamous one on the part of the husband. However, one of the reasons why some co-wives find polygyny particularly difficult is because wives can develop the feeling that they are living in the "shadow" of their co-wife.
In this video I discuss that very subject and offer some advice on how to not remain in the...
When I speak with brothers, more often than not, I get asked, "if there was one things you'd suggest, just one, that would help me in my marriage(s), what would it be?" I usually answer with the same answer and reply, "increase your leadership skills." View the video here and let me know your thoughts.
Now it's not the same increase your iman (faith), learn patience, or focus on your wife's needs advice that they hear often. Though all 3 of those are important,...
I have made a number of mistakes in my life and I've also made mistakes in polygyny. Being human and not having a guide book or much information out there on polygyny to help navigate me definitely assisted in the array of oopsies I've made in my marriage and my relationships.
However, knowing what I know now, I've been able to improve my relationships, correct my mistakes and coach and assist others along the way. I decided to create a video series about the Polygyny...
I invited my big brother to have a conversation about marriage and polygyny. In this video we discuss our feelings about polygyny and my brother takes some questions from our OPR audience! My brother (Chris) and I share some laughs while we tackle some hard questions about my journey through polygyny.
One of which was, how did he feel when he learned that I became a co-wife? We answer this question and more!
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In my experience, as a subsequent wife, when the subject of polygyny is brought up, the focus turns towards the feelings and emotions of the initial wife. I was informed that as an incoming wife, you know what to expect, you know what you "signed up for". However, in my own journey as a subsequent wife and as a polygyny coach who decided to finally shed some light on feelings and emotions of incoming wives, feelings that are not often heard, I've found out that wives in general,...
Countless times I have been asked, “What made you stay with your husband after he began to practice polygyny?” To be truthfully honest I had to ask myself that same question in the past. The beauty of asking some personal and difficult questions meant that I was willing to harvest my truth.
In this video I share my journey as I began to navigate prior thoughts and raw emotions on my why toward acceptance coupled with healing. Prayerfully my...
Salaam / Peace,
Many times the term "homewrecker" is used in regards to referring to a woman whom is a co-wife. This terminology is destructive and decisive. It not only is inaccurate but it is also demeaning and hurtful. The definition of a homewrecker is "a person who is blamed for the breakup of a marriage or family, especially due to having engaged in an affair with one member of a couple." In this video, I discuss the difference between a homewrecker and a co-wife.
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Coach Nazir discusses his experience and demonstrates how to do a quick exercise in order to see what conclusion you may come to with regard to this question... whether or not you choose to participate in polygyny, it's still interesting to see how you think and how you formed that idea. Watch the VIDEO NOW.
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Being married can have it's share of ups and downs and that can be long before the "honeymoon phase" is over. It's a totally different environment when you are now living with someone and now you see them in their element and they see you in yours, flaws and all. Don't get me wrong, marriage can be and should be blissful, however there are some that just seem to not work out. Why? Who is to blame when the marriage turns sour? When happily ever after turns into clash of the...
Sometimes in a relationship we fail to recognize toxic behaviors; one of which is narcissism. Narcissist personality types can send red flags to unknowing loved ones, especially in marriage and polygyny. Men and women can both possess narcissistic personality traits. Some of which are the following: