Polygamy Hurts, But It Doesn’t Have to Break You

By Coach Fatimah, Outstanding Personal Relationships

You’ve felt it before.

That sudden rush of fear.

The anger that blindsides you.

The heavy sadness when you picture your husband with someone else.

If any of that sounds familiar, hear me clearly. You’re not broken, and you’re not alone.

I’m Coach Fatimah. I live polygyny every single day. Not in theory, not in “maybe one day,” but in the real trenches of sharing a husband.

I know the ...

Ladies, polygyny doesn’t become less real just because we refuse to talk about it.

There are certain truths in marriage that exist whether we feel good about them or not.

As an initial wife, and “Coach” Fatimah, I’ve witnessed time and again that one of the biggest mistakes an initial wife can make is to avoid having a polygyny conversation with her husband. I know, because I once made that costly mistake myself.

It feels easier to sweep it under the rug, hoping silence will keep the peace...

Let’s have a difficult conversation.

There are certain truths in the world that exist whether we feel good about them or not. 

As Coach Nazir, one of the founders of Outstanding Personal Relationships, I’ve learned that the key to navigating the world is to face these truths head on. 

Today, we’re diving into the dynamics of the sexual Marketplace, why monogamy feels like an unnatural restriction for some men, and the most surprising part: how women are the ones driving the push towards polyg...

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