The Ghost of 2026

The Ghost of 2026

Today is December 30th.

The world outside is quiet. The emails have slowed down. The offices are empty. 

The secular world is in that strange, suspended gap between their Christmas and the New Year. 

For them, it is a time of parties and resolutions.

For us, we do not celebrate these holidays. 

We do not hang ornaments, and we do not wait for a ball to drop to decide to change our lives.

But even though we do not celebrate the holiday, we cannot escape the timeline.

There is a heaviness to this specific week. It is a time of reckoning (no Diddy).

Whether you like it or not, the Gregorian calendar is about to turn a page. 

The "receipts" of the last 365 days are being tallied. 

The habits you ignored in March are compounding in December. The conversations you avoided in July are screaming at you today.

January 1st does not change anything. A new calendar year does not wash away your sins or your lack of strategy. 

Systems change things. Frameworks change things. Education changes things.

If you want to know what your family will look like in 2026, you do not need to tell the future, you can’t anyway. 

You do not need to make a wish. You just need to look at your behavior today.

I want to tell you a story about three men.

From the outside, they look identical. They are all considered upper-middle class. 

They drive luxury SUVs. They live in zip codes that command respect. They all practice polygyny.

But inside their homes, behind the heavy oak doors, their reMiriamties are violent opposites.

One family is driving 100 miles per hour toward a cliff and refuses to hit the brakes.

 

One family is stuck in the mud, spinning their wheels, exhausted from trying to please everyone.

 

And one family was drowning in October but is finally learning how to swim.

 

Read these stories carefully. Because one of them is likely you.

The Arrogant Drifter (The Crash)

It is 8:00 PM on December 30th.

Mikail is sitting in his home office at his initial wife, Brenda’s, house. The door is locked. He isn't working. 

He is staring blankly at his phone, doom-scrolling through social media, desperate for a dopamine hit to numb the anxiety clawing at his chest.

He calls it "decompression," but he is actually escaping. Downstairs, the energy is toxic enough to choke on. 

Brenda is slamming cabinet doors in the kitchen. She is not yelling, which is worse. She is seething.

The conflict started three weeks ago. 

Brenda asked Mikail a simple question: "Since you are off work for the break, what is the schedule? Are we doing a family dinner with the kids, or are you going to Jessica’s?"

Mikail did what he always does. He delayed. He said, "I’ll figure it out." He said, "Stop pressuring me." He thought if he waited long enough, the problem would solve itself.

It did not.

Yesterday, panicked by the deadline, he told Brenda he would be spending the majority of the time off with Jessica because "Jessica feels lonely when everyone else is with family."

Brenda exploded. Not because of the time, but because of the lack of notice. She felt disrespected. She felt like an option. 

Now, she is downstairs texting him paragraphs of accusations. "You are a coward. You only care about her because she's new. You are destroying this family."

Meanwhile, at her condo uptown, Jessica is crying. She got the time she wanted, but she feels the resentment radiating from the other house. 

She feels like a prize Mikail won, not a wife he leads. She is texting her girlfriends, saying, "I don't know if I can do this another year. This is a mess."

The Diagnosis:

Mikail believes that because he pays the mortgage on two million-dollar homes, he is a good patriarch. He believes his financial provision excuses his emotional bankruptcy.

 

He is operating without a map. When problems arise, he blames the women. "Brenda is just crazy," he tells himself. "Jessica is just needy." He takes zero responsibility for the fact that he created the vacuum of leadership they are reacting to.

 

The Spectrum Level:

 

In our framework, this is the classic C3 to C4 Trap.

• Brenda is in C3 (The Victim/Reactive State): She feels powerless, so she uses emotional volatility to try to regain control.

 

• Mikail is in C4 (The Avoider/Comfort-Seeker): He thinks leadership is about being "happy." When conflict starts, he retreats (to his office, to his phone). He refuses to hold the frame because he fears the heat.

The Forecast for 2026:

 

They will not make it.

 

By refusing to seek help, Mikail literally laughed when a friend suggested reading a book on polygyny structures, he has proven he values his ego more than his family’s peace. 

 

Brenda is already consulting a lawyer "just in case." 

 

Jessica is emotionally detaching.

 

2026 will be a year of high-conflict litigation and shock. 

 

Mikail will blame polygyny. But the truth is, he crashed the car because he refused to learn how to drive.

The "Nice Guy" Trap (The Stagnation)

Dontae is currently in his car, driving between Miriam’s house and Halima’s house. He is gripping the steering wheel so hard his knuckles are white. 

He feels a physical knot in his stomach, the kind that makes him want to throw up.

He just left Miriam’s house. Miriam, his initial wife, is a good woman, but she is stuck in a cycle of insecurity. 

Every time Dontae tries to implement a new rule or a structured schedule, Miriam cries. She says, "You are changing. You are becoming cold. Why can't we just go with the flow like we used to?"

Dontae loves her. He hates seeing her cry. He is a "Nice Guy." He wants everyone to be happy.

So, ten minutes ago, he crumbled. He looked at Miriam’s tears and said, "Okay, okay. I won't go to Halima’s for the full day tomorrow. I'll stay for breakfast here."

He broke his word to Halima to appease Miriam.

Now, he is driving to Halima’s house to deliver the bad news. This is where the tragedy lies. 

Halima, his subsequent wife, came into the marriage with two small children from a previous relationship. 

She didn't just marry Dontae for herself; she married him because she needed a leader for her children. She needed stability.

Halima watches our videos. She knows what a healthy polygynous structure looks like. 

She keeps telling Dontae, "You have to lead, Dontae. You have to let her be upset and hold the boundary anyway. My children need to know when you are coming. I need to know."

But Dontae replies, "I can't just hurt her, Halima. You don't understand."

The Diagnosis:

This family is in the Twilight Zone. They are not crashing like Mikail’s family, but they are not moving. They are sliding back and forth in the mud.

 

Dontae thinks he is being kind. In reMiriamty, he is being cruel. By refusing to stand in his discomfort, he is keeping both women in a state of chronic anxiety. 

Miriam never learns to self-soothe because Dontae always fixes her emotions for her. Halima is losing respect for him because she sees him bending to whoever cries the loudest.

 

The Spectrum Level:

• Miriam is operating at C3 (Insecurity/Resistance): She uses guilt to control the schedule.
• Halima is attempting C5 (The Builder): She wants structure, especially for her children, but she is dragged down by the system.
• Dontae is a classic C4 (The People Pleaser): He confuses "peacekeeping" with "peacemaking." He thinks if he keeps everyone quiet, he is winning. But he is actually losing respect from both sides.

The Forecast for 2026:

 

They will still be here.

 

That is the tragedy of this dynamic. They won't divorce, but they will be miserable. 

 

Halima will eventually burn out from trying to lead her husband from behind. 

 

Miriam will never grow. 

 

Dontae will age ten years in the next twelve months, exhausted from the mental gymnastics of trying to serve two masters.

The Climbers (The Success Story)

Omar’s house is not perfect. Let me be clear about that.

Right now, at his initial wife Tasha’s house, the four kids are running around screaming. There is a pile of laundry on the couch that hasn't been folded in three days. It is loud. It is messy.

But Omar is not hiding in his office. And he is not terrified in his car.

He is in the kitchen with Tasha.

Three months ago, this couple was in the exact same spot as Mikail and Dontae. 

They were screaming. They were blaming. Omar was sleeping in his guest room because he couldn't handle the stress of "the turn."

But in October, Omar hit a wall. He looked in the mirror and said, "I am sick and tired of being sick and tired."

He realized that his "good intentions" were not enough. He needed skills. He needed a system. He realized he was trying to build a skyscraper with the tools of a shed.

So, he bought the Playbooks. He subscribed to the channel. 

He sat his wives down, separately first, then together, and said, "I have failed you by not leading. That changes now."

Tonight, December 30th, they are doing something radical. They are having a "State of the Union" meeting.

Omar has a piece of paper printed out on the kitchen table. It is the FRAME Spectrum Code Diagnostic. 

 

He looks at Tasha and speaks calmly. "Babe, last week, when I changed the schedule last minute because of work, I was operating at a C3 level. I was reactive. I didn't communicate. I apologize. Next week, I am committing to a C5 structure. Here is the written plan."

Tasha doesn't roll her eyes. Because she has read the book, she understands the language.

She takes a breath. "Thank you. When you changed the schedule, I felt unsafe, and I went into C3 Victim Mode. I'm sorry for yelling. I appreciate the plan."

Across town, Layla is on FaceTime with them.

Layla is seven months pregnant with their first child together. The nesting instinct is hitting her hard. 

In the past, her hormones and anxiety about the future would have caused massive fights. She would have demanded all of Omar's time.

But because Omar has implemented the FRAME Method, Layla feels secure. 

She knows exactly when Omar is coming to help with the nursery. She knows the financial plan for the baby is set.

He says to her on the call, "Layla, how are you feeling? I know the baby is kicking. I've blocked out Saturday morning to assemble the crib. It's on the calendar."

Layla smiles, holding her belly. She feels seen. She feels honored. She is not competing with Tasha; she has her own lane.

The Diagnosis:

They still argue. They still have "bad days."

 

But they have a common language. They have a map.

 

When they get lost, they don't burn the car down; they just look at the Diagnostic Chart and get back on the road.

 

The Spectrum Level:

They are transitioning into C5 (Climbing).

 

This is the level where you stop reacting to emotions and start building systems. It is the level where the husband sets the vision, and the wives feel safe enough to support it.

 

The Forecast for 2026:

By this time next year, Omar, Tasha, and Layla will be the "Power Trio" that everyone else is amazed by.

 

People will look at them and say, "Wow, they are so lucky. He found the right women."

 

They aren't lucky. They just did the work.

The Difference is NOT Money

Look at these three families.

 

All of them have money. All of them have resources. All of them are successful in the dunya.

 

Mikail thinks money is the answer, and he is losing everything.

 

Dontae thinks "niceness" is the answer, and he is stuck in quicksand.

 

Omar realized Structure and Education are the answers, and he is winning.

 

Polygyny amplifies who you are.

 

If you are disorganized, polygyny will turn your life into chaos.

 

If you are a people-pleaser, polygyny will turn you into a doormat.

 

If you are a builder, polygyny will build you a legacy.

 

Where Do You Sit on the Spectrum?

As we close out this year, I need you to be honest.

 

Forget the Instagram photos. Forget what you tell your mother.

 

Look at your home right now.

 

Is there silence and resentment (C3)?

 

Is there exhaustion and appeasement (C4)?

 

Or is there a messy, difficult, but beautiful climb toward something better (C5)?

 

The difference between Mikail and Omar wasn't that Omar had fewer problems.

 

Omar had four kids, a pregnant wife, two houses, and plenty of drama.

 

The difference was that Omar stopped being arrogant enough to think he could figure it out 

Alone.

 

He reached out. He got educated.

 

Your 2026 Starts Tonight

You have 48 hours before the world resets its calendar.

 

You can be Mikail. You can hide in your office and wait for the divorce papers in 2026.

 

You can be Dontae. You can keep trying to make everyone happy until you have a heart attack from the stress.

 

Or you can be Omar.

 

You can say, "I don't know everything, but I am willing to learn."

 

We built the tools for Omar. We built them for you.

If you are sick and tired of the chaos...

If you are done with the "Nice Guy" sliding...

 

If you want to look at your wives next December and feel pride instead of panic...

 

Do the work.

Step 1: Stop guessing. Educate yourself on the frameworks that actually work.

Step 2: Get the Playbook. It is the architecture you are missing.

Step 3: Lead. Not next week. Tonight.

Start Your Journey Here: PolygamyBooks.com

Don't let the Ghost of 2026 haunt you. 

Write a different story.

Now let's get to work.