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As marriage and polygyny coaches, we get asked a plethora of questions. As parents who are in polygyny, those questions increase. How do you transition your children? How do you equip them to handle being part of a family that practices that form of marriage? How do you handle the fears, challenges or insecurities that may arise? Of course, these are just a few of the questions and the short, easy answer is through patience and communication.

However, we know that complicated...

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There are many questions that surround polygyny. How did your family react to polygyny? What interests you about polygyny? How did the children react? In this video, Coach Nyla, Nazir, & Fatimah are interviewed by Eloheem Ali; @al_kemets on Instagram. They are asked questions on their perspectives of polygyny, the affects of polygyny, and much more. Be sure to subscribe to our YouTube channel (@OutstandingPersonalRelationships) so you don't miss out on the upcoming...

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There are many questions that branch from polygyny. Such as 'how do you keep your focus off of your spouse' or 'how to be cordial with your co-wife'. Outside of polygyny, there are your friends. Another frequent question I get is 'do my friends like my co-wife'? So, in this video, I answer just that.

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There's been countless times where co-wives find themselves in a unique set of circumstances. And that unique set of circumstances is trying to figure out how to treat one another in a respectful manner.

Although they may not be friends, it is extremely paramount to the overall climate of the family that you do indeed treat another well. In this video, I answer the burning question of how I can treat my co-wife cordially.

Check out the video HERE!

If you have any questions or...

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Has there ever been a time, shoot, maybe multiple times, where you wished that your spouse was just a little different in some way? Have you ever thought to yourself, "maybe I can get him to change", or "if I did this, then he would be this way"? Has that ever worked for you? I know many of us may have these thoughts of wanting to change our spouse or spouses in some way or another and that is usually due to our selfish nature. Yes, I said it.

I am not exempt from this form of...

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Often times I'm asked how I can handle communicating with my co-wife when we're married to the same man. Not only that, but another frequent question is how I can shift my focus off of my husband. So, in today's blog video I discuss how I shift my focus off of my husband in polygyny. You can watch the video HERE!

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As I watched and listened to countless women, especially black women speak on how hard it is to find a "man of value" or a "high value man", I realized that there are a number of things that are causing issues in the pursuit of black women having the fulfilled relationships they want, with the men or type of men they want. I would hallucinate that many of these issues stem from what we were taught and how we were brought up.

I discovered an on-going trend of teaching amongst...

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The introduction into marriage & polygyny can be faced with it’s challenges. Couples may experience many ebbs & flows, which is completely normal in any relationship of substance. Loving your spouse on the bad days is where you can discover or rediscover what brought you to enjoy one another in the first place. In this video I discuss how the landscape of love may change while practicing polygyny; however this particular lifestyle change does not spell defeat in...

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There has been heavy talk around the relationship cooler about masculine and feminine energy and what attracts "men of value". Time and time again, the word, "submissive" has been thrown out there and when that word is used by men (or by Muslims) people (usually women) react by stating that submissive women are "out of touch", "have low self esteem", "are brain-washed" or a new one I heard was, "pretty little slaves". I thought this was an interesting topic to discuss so I...

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Let's tackle the burning question of how co-wives can cooperate with one another in polygyny. Often times societal norms that co-wives must be natural born enemies and that's just not the case. Co-wives can definitely live in peace if they give themselves permission to do so by seeing each others different perspectives and allowing one another to express their experiences. In this video, I share how my co-wife and I keep peace and cooperate with each other.

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