Outstanding Personal Relationships
Men’s Spectrum Diagnostic

🐍 Level 1: The "Corrupt"
The Profile
This is the absolute bottom of the spectrum, representing a man who is a cold, calculating predator. His core motivation is a predatory self-interest and an insatiable greed for power, resources, or control, with zero empathy.
He is a "white-collar predator," a "warlord," or a "genocide artist." His strategy is opportunistic and hierarchical: he uses "covert manipulation" and charm in public but is an "overt tyrant" to his subordinates or family. His internal justification is a pure belief in his own superiority, seeing the world as a "survival of the fittest" game he is winning.
Observable Signs
● Superficial Charm: He is often very charismatic, trustworthy, and polished to peers or the public.
● A "Trail of Bodies": A long history of partners he's "ruined," "loyal" employees he's betrayed, and people he's exploited or killed.
● Cold, "Dead" Eyes: In private, or when his mask slips, his charm vanishes, and you see pure, cold contempt.
● "Systems" of Exploitation: He doesn't just harm people; he builds systems (in his business, his "crew," or his "game") to exploit them efficiently.
Overlooked Insights
● His Patience is His Weapon: This man is not impulsive. He will wait years for his plan to come together, moving his "pawns" into place before he strikes.
● He Uses High-Level Language: He will often "speak" like a Level 6 or 7, using words like "legacy," "vision," and "family," but for him, these are just tools of manipulation to acquire power.
● Coaching is Impossible: This level is not coachable. The goal is identification and extraction.
Common Phrases
1. "It's just business." (Used as a cold justification for betraying or killing someone).
2. "If they were stupid enough to trust me, they deserve what they get." (His "Superior" self-talk).
3. "Everyone has a price. You just have to find out what it is." (His "Corrupt" worldview).
Character Archetypes
● Bumpy Johnson (Laurence Fishburne) in Hoodlum. A perfect L1. He is a "cold, calculating" predator and killer. His internal justification is "I am superior," and he is driven by a "zero-sum game" for power. He's a powerful example of an L1 man who looks like an L6.
● Avon Barksdale (Wood Harris) in The Wire. He is the "cold, calculating" king. He is strategic, sees people as pawns, and his "superior" self-perception allows him to order harm and murder with zero empathy, all while "justifying" it as "business."
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🦂 Level 2: The "Combative"
The Profile
This is the "Hot Reactor." He is not a cold planner; he is impulsive, chaotic, and volatile. His primary driver is Extreme Impulsivity (addiction, uncontrollable lust, thrill-seeking), which is triggered by his Profound Insecurity (a terror of being disrespected).
He is an "Opportunistic Reactor" who logs his "successful" reactions into a "playbook." His strategy is a "bully" first (overt rage), a "manipulator" second (covert guilt), and a "ghost" third (avoidance). He justifies it all with a corrupted "King" narrative (his license to harm) and a "Victim" narrative (his excuse).
Observable Signs
● Explosive, "Hair-Trigger" Rage: He can go from 0 to 100 over a perceived slight (a "look," a "tone of voice").
● A "Trail of Chaos": A history of destroyed property, bar fights, restraining orders, and fired jobs.
● "Ghosting" / Avoidance: He runs from all responsibility. He will disappear for days (on a bender, with another woman) and then get "combative" and defensive when confronted.
● Blames Everyone: Nothing is ever his fault. It's his boss's fault, his "woman's" fault, "the system's" fault.
Overlooked Insights
● He is Driven by Insecurity, Not Strength: His rage is a mask for his terror of being seen as "weak." He is the classic "loudest man in the room."
● His "Playbook" is Purely Reactive: Unlike L1's proactive strategy, L2's "playbook" is just a list of "what worked last time" to get him out of trouble or get him his "fix."
● He Mistakes "Chaos" for "Power": He genuinely believes his ability to "bully" and intimidate is a sign of his manhood (his "corrupted King" narrative).
Common Phrases
1. "You disrespected me! You know what happens when I feel disrespected!" (The "Bully" tactic).
2. "If you hadn't kept nagging me, I wouldn't have had to [hit the wall / leave]!" (The "Victim" blame).
3. "I can't help it, this is just who I am. My needs are my needs." (The "Impulsive" excuse).
Character Archetypes
● "Bishop" (Tupac Shakur) in Juice. The perfect L2. He is driven by "Profound Insecurity" (fear of being weak) and "Extreme Impulsivity," which he justifies with a "Thug Entitlement." He is purely "combative" and reactive.
● Andre "Dre" Coleman (Rotimi) in Power. A classic L2. He is impulsive, insecure, and an "opportunistic reactor." He uses all three tactics: he's a "Bully" (intimidation), a "Manipulator" (lying), and a "Ghost" (running). 2
🎭 Level 3: The "Cynical"
The Profile
This is the "Transactional User" or "Player." His dysfunction is not "hot" like L2, but "cold" and intellectual. His primary motivation is a "player" worldview, and his justification is an "Ideological Cynicism" (e.g., "red pill rage," "all women are the same") that he uses as a shield, not as a tool for self-improvement.
His strategy is self-protective: he prefers "brutal honesty" ("I told you so"), but will "spin plates" (gaslight) or "love bomb" to get what he wants (sex, comfort). He is "dimly aware" he's a user but feels justified.
Observable Signs
● "Red Pill" Talk, "Blue Pill" Actions: He talks a big game about "building," "masculinity," and "the system," but he takes no action to improve his own life (he's not fit, not financially stable, has no vision).
● Transactional Relationships: He openly treats women as utilities (for sex, for a "place to stay"). He has a "roster" or "rotation."
● Contempt for Women: He may be charming at first, but his "cynicism" eventually bleeds out as genuine contempt, bitterness, and blame.
● "Brutal Honesty" Shield: He will say, "I'm just being honest," as a weapon to be cruel or to absolve himself of all consequences for his actions.
Overlooked Insights
● He is Stuck at the "Intellectual" Stage: He is a "Conformist" (L4) who thinks he's a "Climber" (L5). He has learned the "red pill" information but is stuck in the "anger" phase, using it as an excuse for his L3 behavior.
● His Cynicism is a Defense Mechanism: His cynical ideology is a shield to protect his ego from the pain of rejection or the hard work of real self-improvement.
Common Phrases
1. "I told you from the start I wasn't looking for anything serious. It's not my fault you caught feelings." (The "Brutal Honesty" Shield).
2. "All women are like that. A man has to do what he has to do to win." (The "Ideological Justification").
3. "Look, you just need to learn how to play your position." (The "Transactional" operator).
Character Archetypes
● Marcus Graham (Eddie Murphy) in Boomerang. The quintessential L3. He is a "Transactional User" and a "Player," "spinning plates" and "discarding" women. His "cynical" worldview is his justification, and his entire arc is about being broken down and "Climbing" (L5).
● Harper Stewart (Taye Diggs) in The Best Man. He thinks he's an L6, but he's a "Cynical" L3. He's a "User" (he exploits his friends' secrets for his book), a "Gaslighter" (to Robin), and "Transactional" (he hides his book to get what he wants).
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🐑 Level 4: The "Conformist"
The Profile
This is the "Stuck Conformist" or "Default Man." He is not malicious, but fundamentally lazy and adrift. His core motivation is to be an "Insecure Provider" or "Simp" to get validation from women.
Because he has no internal vision, his strategy is to be a "Follower" (adopting the "nice guy" script), and his underlying state is "Apathetic Drifter." His coping mechanism for failure is "Resentful Blame" ("nice guys finish last") and "Passive-Aggressive Martyrdom." His core fear is the "Fear of Discomfort."
Observable Signs
● The "Friend Zone" Specialist: He has a history of being the "nice guy" friend who "provides" for women who don't respect him.
● Apathetic Drifting: He has no real goals. His life is run by "comfort-seeking" (video games, porn, junk food, weed).
● The "Grumbling" Provider: When forced to do a "man's" job (fix something, make a hard decision), he does it with a heavy sigh and a martyred attitude.
● "Nice Guy" Resentment: He is "nice" to women's faces, but privately (or to his "boys") he is resentful and blames them for his lack of success.
Overlooked Insights
● His "Nice Guy" Act is Covert Control: It's not genuine. It's a tactic he learned from "groupthink." He's being "nice" to get something. It's a failed L3 "transaction."
● His Core Problem is Laziness: He is "stuck" simply because he is unwilling to do the hard work of building a vision, a purpose, and a body that would naturally attract a high-level woman.
Common Phrases
1. "I don't get it. I did everything for her, and she still chose that jerk." ("Nice guys finish last" / Resentful Blame).
2. "I don't know, honey, what do you want to do? I'm easy." (Apathetic Drifting / Avoiding Leadership).
3. "Yeah, I'll go fix it. (Heavy sigh)... Just one more thing I have to do around here." (The "Grumbling" Provider).
Character Archetypes
● Julian "Murch" (Harold Perrineau) in The Best Man. The perfect L4 "Insecure Provider." He "conforms" to everything his "Combative" (L2) girlfriend demands, is "passive-aggressive," and has to "Climb" (L5) to L6 to finally grow a spine.
● Dominic "The Dreamer" (Michael Ealy) in Think Like a Man. He is the "Apathetic Drifter" par excellence. He "conforms" to his "dreamer" identity to avoid real responsibility. He's a "nice guy" but has no "vision" and must be "forced" to "Climb."
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🌱 Level 5: The "Climbing"
The Profile
This is the "Awakening Student" or "Contender." This is the "messy," vulnerable, but most important phase of action. He has recognized the flaws of L4 (his apathy, his "simp" behavior) and has become a "Humble Student" and an "Accountability Taker."
However, he overcompensates as a "New Identity Preacher" ("awkward debater"), which alienates him. His primary internal struggle is Habitual Relapse (falling back into L4 apathy), followed by Profound Loneliness and Intellectual Confusion (guru-hopping).
Observable Signs
● The "Guru-Hopper": He's suddenly obsessed with self-improvement podcasts, books, and figures.
● "New Identity" Preaching: He "preaches" his new "truth" (about health, women, money) to his old L4 friends, but he's "clumsy," "awkward," and defensive when challenged.
● "Stuck" in Learning: He often gets "stuck" learning and talking about improving, and struggles with the actual execution (the Habitual Relapse).
● Social "Drifting": He's too good for his L4 friends, but not yet good enough for an L6 circle, so he's often "profoundly lonely."
Overlooked Insights
● This is the Most Critical Stage: The battle is the "Habitual Relapse." His success is not measured by his "wins," but by how fast he gets back up after "relapsing" into L4 apathy.
● His Arrogance is a Mask for Confusion: His "preaching" and "arrogance" are just a new form of "groupthink." It's a shield he's using to protect his fragile, new identity.
Common Phrases
1. "Wait... what if I'm the one who's been wrong this whole time?" (The "Awakening").
2. "You guys are still complaining about women? You should be reading [Guru's Name]. He breaks it all down." (The "New Identity Preacher").
3. "I know I need to go to the gym and work on my business... I'll start tomorrow." (The "Habitual Relapse").
Character Archetypes
● Quincy McCall (Omar Epps) in Love & Basketball. After his L4 "conformist" identity (a "star player") is shattered, his entire arc is "Climbing." He's "lonely," "confused," and fighting "habitual relapse" (rage, apathy) to find his new L6 purpose.
● Marcus Graham (Eddie Murphy) in Boomerang (End of the film). His L3 "Cynic" is broken by Jacqueline. He "drifts," becomes "confused" and "lonely," and "climbs" to L5 to be accountable and prove he's worthy of an L6 woman (Angela).
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🧱 Level 6: The "Competent"
The Profile
This is the "Competent Builder" or "Captain." He has "graduated" from L5 by turning learning into execution. He is defined by his Competence (he's reliable, accountable) and his Discernment (he thinks critically).
He is a "Pragmatic Builder" who focuses on his "Vision/Legacy" and is driven by an internal "Pursuit of Excellence." He wastes zero time on dysfunction and is a "Selective Mentor" only to those who are genuinely "Climbing" (L5).
Observable Signs
● Actions, Not Words: His life is in order. He is physically fit, financially stable, and executes his plans. He doesn't talk about his vision; he is his vision in action.
● "Noble Disengagement": He no longer "debates" (L5) or "blames" (L4). He sets firm boundaries. He will calmly state his standards and disengage from anyone who can't meet them.
● High-Quality, Small Circle: He has "pruned" his social life. He actively seeks out and builds with other L6/L7 men and women.
● Problem-Solver: When faced with a crisis, his first question is "What is the solution?" not "Who is to blame?"
Overlooked Insights
● A Common Pitfall: "Righteous Rigidity": A key danger for L6 is that he can become too rigid. He worked so hard to build his vision that he can become an "emotional brick wall" or judgmental, lacking the "collaborative" grace of L7.
● He Seeks an L6/L7 Woman: This man is not interested in a "Combative" (L2) or "Conformist" (L4) woman. He is actively seeking a "Competent" (L6) or "Crowned" (L7) partner to build with.
Common Phrases
1. "I'm willing to show you, but only if you're serious about doing the work." (The "Selective Mentor").
2. "I'm not interested in arguing about it. My standards are firm. This is the way." (The "Boundary Setter").
3. "My focus isn't on them; it's on building this." (The "Pragmatic Builder").
Character Archetypes
● Rod Tidwell (Cuba Gooding Jr.) in Jerry Maguire. The definition of L6. He is Competent (a great player), driven by "Legacy" (his family), and "Excellence" ("Show me the money!"). He is a "Selective Mentor" to Jerry, teaching him how to be a better man.
● "Creed" (Michael B. Jordan) in Creed II & III. He has graduated from L5 to L6. He is "Competent," "Discerning," "Self-Contained," and motivated by "Legacy" (his family) and "Excellence." 6
👑 Level 7: The "Crowned"
The Profile
This is the "Crowned King" or "Visionary." He has achieved the legacy the L6 man is still building. His core characteristic is "Visionary" (he thinks in terms of decades and generations) and "Generative" (he actively builds lasting families, businesses, and communities).
His leadership style is "The Architect" (he designs the "blueprints" and "family constitution") and "The Collaborative King" (he collaborates with his "Crowned" Queen and "Competent" L6 team to execute the vision).
Observable Signs
● A "Calm Center": He is profoundly non-reactive. In a crisis, he is the one who becomes more still, not less. His presence is the boundary.
● "Architect" of Systems: He talks about "blueprints," "values," and "principles." He has a "family constitution," a "business mission," a "community vision."
● "Collaborative" Leadership: He doesn't "rule" (L2) or "micromanage" (L6). He trusts his high-level team (especially his Queen) and leads with them.
● "Generative" Focus: His focus is outward—on his "kingdom," his "legacy," and what he is building, not what he is getting.
Overlooked Insights
● The Biggest Misdiagnosis: Lower-level men mistake his "calm" for weakness. They fail to understand that his vision is so strong he doesn't need to be "combative" (L2).
● His "Queen" is his Most Valued "Collaborator": He requires a "Crowned" (L7) woman. He doesn't want a "Conformist" (L4) or a "Combative" (L2) woman because they cannot collaborate on his "blueprint."
● His Foresight is Practical: His "vision" isn't mystical. It's the practical ability to see the long-term, systemic consequences of every small decision.
Common Phrases
1. "This isn't just about us. This is the 'blueprint' for our children and our children's children." (The "Architect").
2. "I've laid out the vision. Now, let's work together to make it happen." (The "Collaborative King").
3. "What is the wisest move here, the one that serves the legacy?" (The "Visionary").
Character Archetypes
● Malcolm X (Denzel Washington) in Malcolm X (Post-Mecca). He becomes the "Crowned" King. He is truly "Visionary" (generational, global thinking) and "Generative" (building his new organizations). He becomes a "Collaborative King" seeking to build with everyone.
● Marcus Garvey (Historical Figure). A clear L7. He was a "Visionary" (pan-Africanism, generational thinking), "Generative" (the Black Star Line), and an "Architect" (designing a "blueprint" for economic independence and a global "kingdom"). 7
Men's F.R.A.M.E. Score Guide
This system is designed to be a diagnostic tool. The scores reflect the internal logic of each level. A "1" doesn't just mean "bad"; it means the trait is inverted or used destructively (e.g., "Fearless" is inverted into "Insecurity" or "Ruthlessness"; "Masculine" is inverted into the "Bully").
This chart clearly shows why a man is "stuck." For example, the Level 4 "Conformist" man's lowest scores are Ambition and Exceptional, which is his core problem: he is an "Apathetic Drifter" and the definition of the "mediocre masses."
Conversely, the Level 5 "Climbing" man's highest scores are Ambition and Exceptional, because that is the one thing he is actively working on separating himself from the masses and improving, even if his other skills (like "Fearless" or "Reliable") are still clumsy and inconsistent.
Level
F (Fearless)
R (Reliable)
A (Ambitious)
M (Masculine)
E (Exceptional)
TOTAL
L7: The Crowned
10
10
10
10
10
50
L6: The Competent
9
9
9
8
8
43
L5: The Climbing
5
5
7
6
7
30
L4: The Conformist
3
3
2
3
1
12
L3: The Cynical
3
2
3
2
2
12
L2: The Combative
1
1
2
1
2
7
L1: The Corrupt
1
1
1
1
1
5
👑 Level 7: The "Crowned" (Total: 50)
● F (10): The embodiment of "Fearless." He is the "Calm Center" and "Collaborative King." His "Visionary" nature means he doesn't fear chaos.
● R (10): The definition of "Reliable." His "Architect" blueprint is his bond. He is the ultimate "solution-focused" leader.
● A (10): His "Ambition" is "Generative" and "Visionary," the highest possible form.
● M (10): He defines healthy "Masculine" leadership. He is the "Architect" and "King" who "respects gender roles" by collaborating with his "Queen."
● E (10): He is, by definition, "Exceptional."
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🧱 Level 6: The "Competent" (Total: 43)
● F (9): He is "Fearless" as a "Boundary Setter." He's not harmoniously fearless (L7), but rigidly so. His "brittle rigidity" is his one flaw.
● R (9): Extremely "Reliable." He is the "Competent Builder" who "executes." His word is his bond.
● A (9): His "Ambition" is his "Pursuit of Excellence/Legacy." He is on a clear "upward trajectory."
● M (8): He is a strong "Masculine" leader (a "Captain") but his "brittle rigidity" makes his leadership less "collaborative" and effective than L7's.
● E (8): He is "Exceptional." He has separated from the L4 masses, but he's not yet the L7 "King." He's the "Captain."
🌱 Level 5: The "Climbing" (Total: 30)
● F (5): He is not "Fearless." He is the "Awkward Debater" and "New Identity Preacher." He is defensive and reactive because his new identity is fragile.
● R (5): He is not "Reliable." His primary struggle is "Habitual Relapse." His intent is to be accountable, but his follow-through is inconsistent.
● A (7): This is his highest score. He is the "Humble Student," "guru-hopping." He is highly "Ambitious" to improve, even if he's "confused."
● M (6): He is studying "Masculine" leadership, but he's "preachy" and "arrogant" (L5 flaws), not a true leader. The intent is there, not the execution.
● E (7): He is "Exceptional" relative to L4. He has chosen to separate from the "mediocre masses." His "loneliness" is proof of his separation.
🐑 Level 4: The "Conformist" (Total: 12)
● F (3): He is not "Fearless"; he's defined by the "Fear of Discomfort." He is passive-aggressive, not direct.
● R (3): He is not "Reliable"; he's the "Grumbling Provider." He "drifts" and avoids responsibility.
● A (2): This is his lowest score. He is the "Apathetic Drifter" and has no "Ambition" or "Vision."
● M (3): His "Masculine" trait is inverted. He is the "Simp" / "Insecure Provider." He avoids leadership.
● E (1): This is his other lowest score. He is the definition of the "mediocre masses." He is the "Conformist."
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🎭 Level 3: The "Cynical" (Total: 12)
● F (3): He is not "Fearless." He uses "brutal honesty" as a shield to avoid real vulnerability, which is a form of fear.
● R (2): He is actively "unreliable." He is a "Transactional User" who "discards" people.
● A (3): His "Ambition" is corrupted into a "transactional" (L3) "player" mission (sex, comfort).
● M (2): His "Masculine" leadership is inverted into "gaslighting," "spinning plates," and "deception."
● E (2): He thinks he's "Exceptional" (the "red pill" ideology), but he's just another "Cynic," still part of the "dysfunctional" masses.
🦂 Level 2: The "Combative" (Total: 7)
● F (1): He is not "Fearless"; he is "Profoundly Insecure." His "combative" nature is fear-based (fear of disrespect).
● R (1S): He is the definition of "unreliable." He is the "Ghost," "impulsive," and "chaotic."
● A (2): His "Ambition" is inverted into his "Corrupted King" narrative—the "ambition" to gratify his immediate impulses.
● M (1s): His "Masculine" leadership is inverted into the "Bully" tactic (overt rage).
● E (2): He "stands out" only because of his "chaos." He is not "exceptional."
🐍 Level 1: The "Corrupt" (Total: 5)
● F (1): His "fearlessness" is inverted into ruthlessness. It's not bravery; it's a sociopathic lack of empathy.
● R (1): He is reliably "corrupt." He is a "predator" and "betrayer."
● A (1): His "ambition" is inverted into a "zero-sum game" of destruction.
● M (1): His "Masculine" leadership is inverted into a "system of exploitation."
● E (1): He is "exceptional" only in his capacity for evil.
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Outstanding Personal Relationships
Women’s Spectrum Diagnostic
🐍 Level 1: The "Corrupt"
The Profile
This is the absolute bottom of the spectrum, representing a woman who is cold, calculating, and predatory. Her core motivation is profound narcissistic self-absorption. She views life as a zero-sum game she must win at all costs, and she is capable of patient, strategic planning to achieve her goals.
She uses a vindictive victim narrative ("They deserved it") to justify her actions. Her interpersonal strategy is opportunistic and hierarchical: she uses superficial charm on those she perceives as superiors and overt intimidation on those she sees as inferiors.
Observable Signs
● Superficial Charm: She is often very likable, polished, and charismatic, especially to people in power.
● A "Trail of Bodies": A long history of ex-friends, "toxic" family members, and "abusive" exes. She is the only common denominator.
● Cold, "Dead" Eyes: In moments of private rage or when the "mask" drops, you will see a chilling flash of cold, calculating contempt.
● Enjoys Others' Misfortune: She will show a subtle, smug satisfaction (a small smirk) when someone she envies fails or suffers.
Common Phrases
1. "He has no idea what I'm capable of. I'll let him think he's in control, and then I'll ruin him."
2. "He deserves to be destroyed. After what he did, I'm going to take him for everything he has."
3. "I will win this, no matter what it takes. I don't care who gets hurt."
Character Archetypes
● Maya Pope (Khandi Alexander) in Scandal. The pure definition of a "Corrupt" Level 1. A cold, calculating, patient, and absolutely ruthless predator who uses a victim narrative (and charm) to mask her zero-sum game worldview.
● Tasha St. Patrick (Naturi Naughton) in Power (Later Seasons). She evolves into this, becoming cold, strategic, and willing to betray anyone to secure her own "win."
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🦂 Level 2: The "Combative"
The Profile
This woman is the "Hot Avenger," driven by a "tyranny of the weak" ideology. Her core is a deep, volatile emotional instability (vulnerable narcissism) and a primal terror of abandonment. Her "victim" status is her entire engine.
She is not a grand strategist like Level 1, but a short-term schemer who uses a learned "playbook" of high-stakes manipulative tactics (false accusations, paternity lies, threats, faking crises) to trap and control her partner. Her primary payoff is the feeling of emotional control and the act of vengeance itself.
Observable Signs
● "Nuclear Option" Threats: She always goes to the most extreme threat immediately: "I'll take the kids!" "I'll call the police!" "I'll kill myself!"
● Constant, Extreme Crisis: Her life is a 10-alarm fire, and you are the only one who can put it out.
● Volatile Swings: She'll go from a screaming rage to "I'm so sorry, I love you, don't leave me" in 10 minutes.
Common Phrases
● "If he even tries to bring another woman in, I'll take the kids, and he'll never see them again!"
● "He's an abuser! I'll call the police and file a restraining order. I'll tell everyone what he really is."
● "I'll just get pregnant again. Then he'll be trapped and can't leave."
Character Archetypes
● Melinda Gayle (Taraji P. Henson) in Acrimony. This is the quintessential Level 2 profile. Her entire character is built on a "righteous avenger" narrative, leading to "nuclear option" tactics and a "combative" obsession that destroys everything.
● Bernadine Harris (Angela Bassett) in Waiting to Exhale. Her famous car-burning scene is the perfect "Hot Avenger" moment, a "combative," impulsive, and vengeful act driven by emotional devastation.
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🎭 Level 3: The "Cynical"
The Profile
This woman is the "Reactive User." She is not a proactive predator but is driven by reactive entitlement. Her unhealed trauma is her core identity, and she uses it as a license to harm.
When she feels slighted, her first weapon is passive-aggressive guilt (the silent treatment, "disappointment"). If that fails, she escalates to emotional devaluation and a cold discard. She is "dimly aware" of her issues but actively uses them as a shield against all accountability.
Observable Signs
● Weaponized Incompetence: "I'm just not good at [budgets/cleaning/etc.]."
● Heavy Use of the Silent Treatment: Her main tool. It's a low-energy, passive way to exert control.
● Gossip as a Weapon: She won't confront you. She will go to her friends to "vent," subtly painting you as the villain.
● The "Transaction" Ends: When she "discards" a partner or friend, it is sudden, cold, and final.
Common Phrases
1. "I'm this way because of my trauma. If you can't handle it, that's your problem, not mine."
2. "Fine. Do whatever you want. Just don't talk to me about it." (Followed by the silent treatment).
3. "I'm just done. I don't feel like this is working for me anymore." (The cold discard).
Character Archetypes
● Shante Smith (Vivica A. Fox) in Two Can Play That Game. A perfect Level 3. She is Cynical ("all men are dogs"), Reactive (her entire "10-day plan" is a reaction to her ego being hurt), and Transactional. She is a master schemer who thinks she's a Level 7, which is a powerful teaching example.
● Jacqueline Broyer (Robin Givens) in Boomerang. The iconic Level 3 "Transactional User." She is cynical, manipulative, and emotionally "discards" men (like Marcus) the moment the transaction is no longer in her favor.
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🐑 Level 4: The "Conformist"
The Profile
This is the "Stuck Conformist" or "Loyal Follower." She is the "default" midpoint, defined by "teenage" maturity and arrested development. Her entire identity is built on groupthink and external validation.
Her core fear is isolation, so she is intensely loyal to her "sisterhood." She uses ideological slogans as a shield and reframes any attempt at accountability as a "personal attack." She is not malicious, but she is ineffective and unaccountable.
Observable Signs
● Parroting Slogans: She repeats ideological phrases ("He's toxic," "slay queen," "living my truth") without any deep understanding of them.
● High Sensitivity to "Judgment": Any disagreement is perceived as a "personal attack" or "hate."
● "Self-Diagnosis" Identity: She uses labels ("I'm an [anxious] person") as a reason for bad behavior, not an issue to be solved.
● Bad Advice: Her attempts to "help" friends consist of repeating groupthink, which often makes the situation worse.
Common Phrases
1. "Why am I not enough? He's just chasing his lustful desires."
2. "All my friends say he's toxic, and I should just leave him."
3. "You're not allowed to judge me. This is a personal attack, and I won't be shamed for my 'feelings'."
Character Archetypes
● Mya (Meagan Good) in Think Like a Man. The perfect Level 4. Her entire dating strategy is "groupthink" adopted from a book. She is "stuck" in a narrative about her past and is terrified of being isolated/used, so she "conforms" to a rigid set of rules given to her by her "sisterhood."
● Regine Hunter (Kim Fields) in Living Single. She is the "conformist" to superficial ideals. Her identity is built on groupthink about status, appearance, and "getting a man," which makes her shallow and ineffective.
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🌱 Level 5: The "Climbing"
The Profile
This is the "Awakening Student" or "Quiet Drifter." This is the most vulnerable and unstable of the improving levels. She has recognized the flaws of Level 4 and has decided to change.
Her journey is one of Self-Reflection leading to Curiosity and Accountability. She is in a fragile, "messy" stage of growth. She protects her new journey by quietly drifting away from her old "sisterhood," as she is not yet strong enough to confront them.
Observable Signs
● Social Withdrawal: She is suddenly "too busy" for the old friend group. She is spending a lot more time alone, reading, and listening to new ideas.
● "Clumsy" Application: She will try to set a Level 6 boundary but does it awkwardly, often coming across as too harsh or collapsing immediately.
● Intense Shame & Regret: She will have moments of saying, "I can't believe I used to think that."
Common Phrases
1. "Wait... what if I'm part of the problem? I never thought of it like that before."
2. "I don't know what to think anymore. Everything my friends and I used to say just feels... wrong now."
3. "I keep falling back into those old, ugly habits, even though I know better. I feel so stuck."
Character Archetypes
● Sidney "Sid" Shaw (Sanaa Lathan) in Brown Sugar. She is the "Awakening Student." She's "drifting" in a relationship she knows is wrong (Level 4 "conformity"), "awakening" to her real feelings, and "clumsily" trying to fix her life, which is "messy" and "confusing."
● Jordan Armstrong (Nia Long) in The Best Man. She is a successful L6 in her career but a "Climbing" L5 in her personal life. She's "awakening" to her old feelings for Harper, "drifting" from her unfulfilling "conformist" relationship, and "clumsily" trying to navigate it.
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🧱 Level 6: The "Competent"
The Profile
This is the "Competent Builder." She has "graduated" from Level 5 by turning learning into doing. She is defined by her competence, reliability, and accountability. Her first strategy is "The Boundary Setter"; she calmly and firmly protects her peace.
Her secondary strategy is "The Selective Mentor"; she wastes zero time on Level 4s but will guide a genuine Level 5. Her motivation is the pursuit of Wisdom and Integrity. She is a "Queen" in training.
Observable Signs
● Consistency: Her actions match her words. Her life (home, finances, health) is in order.
● "Noble Disengagement": She no longer argues with Level 4s. She will state her position calmly once, and if challenged, she will simply say, "I'm not willing to have this conversation."
● High-Quality, Small Circle: She has "pruned" her social life.
● Problem-Solver: When faced with a crisis, her first question is "What is the solution?" not "Who is to blame?"
Common Phrases
1. "I can't control his choices, but I am 100% in control of my own conduct and integrity."
2. "I'm not willing to tolerate disrespect. My peace is my responsibility, and I will protect it."
3. "I am willing to discuss this, but not if it's just complaining. What is the practical solution?"
Character Archetypes
● Marcee Tidwell (Regina King) in Jerry Maguire. A perfect Level 6. She is Competent, a Boundary Setter ("I will not have a fall-down-drunk..."), and a "Competent Builder" of her family. She is "brittle" in her boundaries, showing the L6-L7 transition.
● Angela Lewis (Halle Berry) in Boomerang. She is the "Competent Builder" and "Discerning" woman. She is accountable, "sets boundaries" (calmly rejects Marcus for his L3 behavior), and "nobly disengages" until he "Climbs" (L5) to her level.
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👑 Level 7: The "Crowned"
The Profile
This is the "Harmonious Queen," the pinnacle of feminine maturity, wisdom, and foresight. Her core characteristic is Internal Harmony. She is at peace, and her presence alone acts as a passive, moral filter that repels dysfunction. In the relationship context, she is the "Queen to a King."
Her role is to provide wise counsel, uplift, and offer "loving correction" in a way her partner welcomes. She takes on her duties with grace, understanding her pivotal role in building their Family Legacy by supporting his success.
Observable Signs
● A "Calm Center": She is profoundly non-reactive. In a crisis, she is the one who becomes more still, not less.
● Economy of Words: She doesn't speak to fill the silence. When she does, her words are precise, impactful, and constructive.
● Joy in Her Role: She does not see her duties as a burden. She takes visible pride and joy in them.
● "Loving Correction": She is the only level capable of correcting her partner. It's always private, respectful, and aimed at his success, not her ego.
Common Phrases
1. "I trust your vision. What is the wisest path, and how can I best support you in achieving it?"
2. "My love, I've been thinking about your goal. Have you considered this perspective...?" (The "loving correction").
3. "My role is to create a home of peace for our family. Let me handle that, so you can focus on building."
Character Archetypes
● Clair Huxtable (Phylicia Rashad) in The Cosby Show. The definitive archetype. She is the "Harmonious Queen," providing wise counsel, "loving correction," and supporting her husband, all while "joyful in her role" and embodying grace.
● Betty Shabazz (Angela Bassett) in Malcolm X. She embodies the grace, foresight, "calm center," and supportive strength of this level. She is the "Queen to a King," providing wise counsel and focusing on their family legacy.
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Women’s F.R.A.M.E. Score Guide
This system is designed to be a diagnostic tool. The scores reflect the internal logic of each level. A "1" doesn't just mean "bad"; it means the trait is inverted or used destructively (e.g., "Affection" is used as a weapon, not a gift).
This chart clearly shows why a woman is "stuck." For example, the Level 4 woman's lowest score is Maturity, which is her core problem. The Level 5 woman's highest score is Maturity because that is the one thing she is actively working on, even if her other skills are still "clumsy."
Level
F (Feminine)
R (Respectful)
(Affectionate & Admiring)
M (Mature)
E (Exclusive)
L7: The Crowned
L6: The Competent
L5: The Climbing
L4: The Conformist
L3: The Cynical
L2: The Combative
L1: The Corrupt
In-Depth Breakdown of Each Level's Score:
👑 Level 7: The "Crowned" (Total: 50)
● F (10): The embodiment of harmonious, graceful, receptive femininity.
● R (10): Her respect is profound, expressed as "loving correction" and total support for the vision.
● A (10): Her affection is joyful and given freely. Her admiration for her "King" is genuine and complete.
● M (10): The pinnacle of maturity: non-reactive, accountable, and possessing long-term foresight.
● E (10): Her devotion to her husband and the family legacy is absolute and unwavering.
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🧱 Level 6: The "Competent" (Total: 43)
● F (8): She is graceful and feminine, but her score is docked for the "brittle rigidity" and "brittle" boundaries that keep her from L7's harmony.
● R (9): Highly respectful, but her "noble disengagement" can feel judgmental, lacking the warmth of L7's "loving correction."
● A (8): Her affection is stable, but her admiration is more critical (she admires competence). It's not yet the joyful admiration of L7.
● M (9): Extremely mature, accountable, and reliable. She's a problem-solver. The only point missing is the full foresight and harmony of L7.
● E (9): Rock-solid loyalty to her principles and her partner. Her devotion is to the relationship, just one step shy of the legacy vision.
🌱 Level 5: The "Climbing" (Total: 30)
● F (6): She is trying to be graceful, but it's "clumsy" and inconsistent. She's "drifting" from L4's superficiality, so the intent is there.
● R (6): She's learning respect. She is "quiet" because she knows her L4 defensiveness was wrong, but she hasn't mastered L6's firm boundaries.
● A (5): Her affection is confused. She's fighting cynicism (L3) and shallowness (L4). Her affection is "awakening" but inconsistent and often self-conscious.
● M (7): This is her highest score. It's not that she's fully mature, but that all her energy is focused on this one trait (self-reflection, accountability).
● E (6): Her loyalty is transferring, away from the L4 "sisterhood" and toward her new principles. She is becoming exclusive to her new, better path.
🐑 Level 4: The "Conformist" (Total: 21)
● F (5): This is superficial femininity. She "conforms" to the look (hair, nails, dress) but lacks the internal essence of grace.
● R (4): Her "respect" is just groupthink. The moment she is challenged, she becomes defensive ("That's a personal attack!").
● A (4): Her affection is shallow. She "admires" superficial things (status, money, looks) but lacks the depth to admire character.
● M (3): This is her lowest score. She is defined by her immaturity, lack of accountability, and "teenage" mindset.
● E (5): Her "exclusivity" is weak. She is loyal to the idea of a relationship but is easily swayed by her "sisterhood" groupthink. Her true loyalty is to the group.
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🎭 Level 3: The "Cynical" (Total: 12)
● F (3): Her "brittle," "cynical" energy is anti-feminine. She is defined by passive-aggression (the silent treatment), which is a "reactive" (masculine) control tactic.
● R (2): Actively disrespectful, but passively (gossip, eye-rolling, cynical "okays").
● A (2): Her affection is 100% transactional. It's a weapon to be given or (more often) withheld to punish her partner. She feels contempt, not admiration.
● M (2): Deeply immature. She uses her "trauma" as a license to avoid all accountability.
● E (3): Her loyalty is only to the "transaction." The moment she's not getting what she wants, she discards the relationship.
🦂 Level 2: The "Combative" (Total: 8)
● F (2): Her essence is volatile, chaotic, and "combative." It is the polar opposite of graceful, harmonious femininity.
● R (1: The lowest possible score. She is openly "combative," using "nuclear option" threats, screaming, and open contempt.
● A (2): Her "affection" is part of the abusive push-pull cycle. It's a tool to pull him back in before the next "combative" explosion.
● M (1): The lowest possible score. She is pure impulse, reactivity, and victimhood. She has zero accountability.
● E (2): Her "exclusivity" is an obsessive trap (like Fatal Attraction). It is not devotion; it is a "tyranny of the weak" to control and possess.
🐍 Level 1: The "Corrupt" (Total: 5)
● F (1): The lowest possible score. Any appearance of femininity is a cold, calculated mask to lure in a target. Her true essence is predatory.
● R (1): The lowest possible score. She feels only contempt for everyone.
● A (1): The lowest possible score. Affection is purely instrumental. She cannot feel admiration, only envy and contempt.
● M (1): The lowest possible score. She is the definition of anti-maturity: narcissistic, destructive, and blames the world.
● E (1): The lowest possible score. Her loyalty is only to herself. She will betray anyone; husband, children, family, to "win" her zero-sum game.
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